The paradoxical side of Love | Friday, May 30, 2008
At this particular moment, I am contemplating of the meaning of love and what does it signify? I think throughout the ages, this question is not new nor is it something to get excited. People have been searching for love, true love and our hearts are pleasantly touched when we see good endings in the fairy tale stories and that those who are truly in love will live happily till the end of their lives.
However, at this modern pace of life, I think the good old fashioned love has slowly eroded and now, we do not even recognise of what it is anymore. We can change our affections and seek for new love when our love for the spouses have faded and that, there is nothing we can look forward to. We want to find some excitement in our relationships, a spark to keep it going but no matter how hard we try, how hard we put in our effort, that mysterious spark seem to disappear and it looked like we would never got hold of it. Then we may take the two choices that are left to us and that is to give up or to quietly bear with it and forget that the spark has ever appeared in our lives.
Personally, I feel that we do not really know how to love or rather to nurture the love that we feel for our loved ones. We take them for granted, expecting them to be there for us when we need them and chuck them aside when we do not need them. On reflection, I think that is what all of us tend to treat God at one point or another time in our lives. Yet, God has not left us and we truly deserved to be abandoned, ignored because of our selfishness and the desire for personal fulfillment. He loves us so much that even if we have hurt Him so much, we do not want to spend time with Him and definitely, we do not even want to talk to Him and listen to His voice and follow His will that He has for our lives, that will not change His love for us. If our loved ones did that to us the way we treated God, very soon, we will not love them anymore, or at least not as much as we have loved them as in the beginning.
Every quarrel, every upset, every cold war and harsh words will draw away our love for each other until we are left with great disappointment, discouragement and little hopes and expeactations for each other. Then, we would rethink our commitment for one another and also, whether we have made the wrong choice at all in the first place. That is not so with God. God loves us and He must have known at the end, that some will spit at Him, some will stamp on His broken body, angry at Him, disgraced by Him and to leave Him alone. Yet, that does not change the fact of the statement, so poignant, that He loves us so strong that He gave His son for us. Not because we are so good, not because we deserve His love but simply because He chooses to love us and have mercy on us. That is true love that all of us have been searching for.
Love can be so fragile that it can easily be broken, yet
Love can be tough too that it can stand firm in the midst of the storms.
Love can grow so cold that it will be not be aroused for anything, yet
Love can also be so passionate that it can consume everything
Love can be hardened to protect oneself from the hurts in one's life, yet
Love can be tender to those and how beautiful will that be.
Love is indeed paradoxical and I think the way to love is to follow our Father's example and that we can indeed day on that blessed day to our loved ones, "For better, or for worse, for health and for sicknesses, till death do we part." That should be our commitment to one another and that we are in this relationship because we choose to be and that we will be committed to nurture this love between us that it will grow to be a strong and fruitful tree. The thought of changing our affections should not even cross in our minds because of the commitment we shared. I love you for who you are and no matter what we say to another in our upsetting times, we may feel hurt and angry with one another but that will not change our love for one another.
Maybe I am hopeless in trying to understand the concept of love and maybe I am naive in my thoughts about love but one thing I strive to do and will always try to do is to follow the example of my Father and our Lord Jesus Christ. May He showers me grace that I will prove the worth of my words.
Created at 12:48 PM
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