Love=Hurts | Friday, July 28, 2006
LOVE=HURTS
In response to my friend's blog when she ask why love have to hurt, I believe that this is the question most of us have been questioning and I have for some time in my life question about this and this are my two cents thoughts about it.
I was a simple-minded person and still is (I suppose) for there was a period of time when i actually thought that if two persons who actually love one another deeply and believed that their relationship was God-ordained, then they must be the happiest couple found in the world and that everything must be alright for they love one another. Reality has to knock me to my senses several times when months have passed and I have seen personally that when their romance has passed over, so was their love and affection towards one another. Both would feel sad and one would take it especially hard than the other and would start blaming God for their failed relationship. They would try anything such as alcoholic drinks, smoking or even find the other partner to take the emptiness out of their hearts, the empty void of their lives. They would also shun other people, their friends and relatives and prefer to be alone, being a hermit and nurse their hurts alone. Therefore, the question is why must love hurts?
I think it is because being in love means you start a relationship with the person whom you love and hopes that it will be fruitful. That also means that when you are in love, you start to make yourself to be vulnerable to the other party and you start sharing with him/her your deepest fears, your greatest delights and joys and your hopes, plans and dreams of the future and you start giving part of yourself into the other person's hands and when this relationship fails, you rightly feel that part of you has died and gone away, vanish and will never come back and you start to wonder where is it that you have gone wrong. You will be bitter and even worse, skeptical and you will start to be cautious and careful in placing your heart towards the other person's hand even though you might like this person a lot and you know that this person too loves very much, perhaps much more than you would ever love him/her. We all fear of being hurt and scared of a failed relationship and that is why we would hesitate and pray for confirmation, reconfirmation until we make a decision whether to accept or not to accept his/her love.
I think for me myself, I kinda can understood why love is so painful because we need to put in a lot of effort towards love and sometimes, the results that we have been hoping for does not turn out the way which we expect. Recently, I have been feeling tired about this matter because I think I have been investing quite a lot of time with the girl I like and I felt that no matter how much effort I put in, the results will still be the same and now, I am just tired about everything. Sometimes I will ask myself whether is it worth it I love this person so much even though I know it in my heart that she will never love me for she has never loved me in the first place. It has been so long and my friends are encouraging me to per sever on for this is only the last lap and if i can cross this hurdle, then i will be home free but to me, i think it has a lot more than that. For this moment, i choose to remain in my comfy shell even though it might irritate people.
To me, love has to hurt for only then can we see how precious love really is. If love doesn't hurt, perhaps we won't take it seriously. God's love hurts, really hurts when He sees His only Son whom He loves so very much, hung on the cross, died for our sins and Jesus hurts too when Father cuts off His relationship with Him. Thus, from this example, we ought to know that when we love someone, we choose to be hurt and yet, how beautiful that picture is seen when love bears fruits, that we are reconciled with God and that our loved ones loved us unreservedly as much as we love them. That is the most beautiful picture and that greatest love has no one than this that a man will lay down his life for others. That Man has come and we ought to show our love to Him and to others also.
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