Man of My Word | Saturday, June 03, 2006
MAN OF MY WORD
I believe in my heart that when we make promises to our loved ones, at that point in time, we meant what we said and that we wanted to live up to our words and certainly, our partners (wives, girlfriends and children) certainly hold us to it. Whenever we break our words, we don't hold ourselves responsible and surprise of surprises, it is our partners and children who hold us to it and they are disappointed, sad and angry that we cannot make our promises stick. As a result, there will be tension and guilty on the guys' part. Then it will all deteriorate into nobody will put trust in our words anymore and that it was just "say, say only" and our loved ones whom we love every much don't have any expectation on our words and even worse, our promises made to them.
Personally, I think that it is sad that when our loved ones no longer trust our words and promises which we have made to them. We try to live up to them to the best of our ability, but somehow, we always seemed to fail them all the time and maybe to the extent that we also cannot trust ourselves of our words. How many of our friends can say of us that our word is our bond to them, that they don't need us to write it in black and white but that they trust us. What an honor that will be to us and what it will do to enhance our reputation. However, on the other hand, when we don't live up to our words, our promises, that we just say it and then forget it on the next moment, can we in all honesty trust ourselves?
I too long to live up to my words but there are times when I slipped without knowing until the person I cherished pointed out to me numerous times until it reached a point where it hurts me that when I said something to her, her first reaction will always be "say say only" and "see how". This way, I see it and interpreted will always be don't open a blank cheque and let your actions prove your words and that I cannot really trust your words until you have proven them otherwise. That hurts me because it implies that she cannot trust me and my words and that I have to daily live up to my words. I think most of us have a problem with our memories that once we said something or make a promise to someone, we tend to forget the promise that we have made to our loved ones and that is also hurtful to them which I believe. I also believe that there are times when we just want to placate them and so we made reassuring noises but with no intention of carrying it out and that is very hurtful especially to the person whom we have made promises to.
I too have made a lot of promises to God Himself, promising that I will be good if He helped me out of this scrape and that scrape. I don't exactly remember how many scrapes I have gotten myself into but I do remember making a lot of promises to Him which I have not even fulfilled any one of them. I feel quite bad about it because God Himself never reminded me about the promises i made to Him but He is always so gracious to me. That makes me realise that I have always taken Him for granted and that should not be the case. I love God and I want to live up to my word to Him just as James and John have said. Our words are useless if there is no action and let it be said of me that my word is my bond. I want to make a list of my promises which I made to people and to the girl I have always loved and my prayer will be that she will be gracious to me when I failed to deliver and gently reminded me about it. I too prayed for a day when she will say to me that I am a man of my word and not just "say say only." I believe in my heart that God is also longing and waiting for a people of integrity that once our word is given, we live to act it out.
May my words be true and holy in Thy sight and may my meditations please you my Lord.
Created at 8:34 PM
I believe in my heart that when we make promises to our loved ones, at that point in time, we meant what we said and that we wanted to live up to our words and certainly, our partners (wives, girlfriends and children) certainly hold us to it. Whenever we break our words, we don't hold ourselves responsible and surprise of surprises, it is our partners and children who hold us to it and they are disappointed, sad and angry that we cannot make our promises stick. As a result, there will be tension and guilty on the guys' part. Then it will all deteriorate into nobody will put trust in our words anymore and that it was just "say, say only" and our loved ones whom we love every much don't have any expectation on our words and even worse, our promises made to them.
Personally, I think that it is sad that when our loved ones no longer trust our words and promises which we have made to them. We try to live up to them to the best of our ability, but somehow, we always seemed to fail them all the time and maybe to the extent that we also cannot trust ourselves of our words. How many of our friends can say of us that our word is our bond to them, that they don't need us to write it in black and white but that they trust us. What an honor that will be to us and what it will do to enhance our reputation. However, on the other hand, when we don't live up to our words, our promises, that we just say it and then forget it on the next moment, can we in all honesty trust ourselves?
I too long to live up to my words but there are times when I slipped without knowing until the person I cherished pointed out to me numerous times until it reached a point where it hurts me that when I said something to her, her first reaction will always be "say say only" and "see how". This way, I see it and interpreted will always be don't open a blank cheque and let your actions prove your words and that I cannot really trust your words until you have proven them otherwise. That hurts me because it implies that she cannot trust me and my words and that I have to daily live up to my words. I think most of us have a problem with our memories that once we said something or make a promise to someone, we tend to forget the promise that we have made to our loved ones and that is also hurtful to them which I believe. I also believe that there are times when we just want to placate them and so we made reassuring noises but with no intention of carrying it out and that is very hurtful especially to the person whom we have made promises to.
I too have made a lot of promises to God Himself, promising that I will be good if He helped me out of this scrape and that scrape. I don't exactly remember how many scrapes I have gotten myself into but I do remember making a lot of promises to Him which I have not even fulfilled any one of them. I feel quite bad about it because God Himself never reminded me about the promises i made to Him but He is always so gracious to me. That makes me realise that I have always taken Him for granted and that should not be the case. I love God and I want to live up to my word to Him just as James and John have said. Our words are useless if there is no action and let it be said of me that my word is my bond. I want to make a list of my promises which I made to people and to the girl I have always loved and my prayer will be that she will be gracious to me when I failed to deliver and gently reminded me about it. I too prayed for a day when she will say to me that I am a man of my word and not just "say say only." I believe in my heart that God is also longing and waiting for a people of integrity that once our word is given, we live to act it out.
May my words be true and holy in Thy sight and may my meditations please you my Lord.
Created at 8:34 PM
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